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08
Jun
‘On Opening Doors’ by Thea Monyee is one of the many blessings that will come forth in her new project Murmurs of a Mad Woman.
Featured on ‘Def Poetry,’ Thea is a well known on the spoken word circuit for her raw truth spoken always with love. A nurturing mother, loving friend and beautiful soul who I’m grateful to know, I’m excitedly awaiting the release of this work! If you’d like to know more about it and find out how to support, follow this link.
30
May
Black Love is waking up the morning after to the smell of baking biscuits and frying bacon.
Black love is never having to grease your own scalp.
Black love is always having a spades partner
Black Love is getting a free lineup in your boxers at the kitchen table.
Black love is when Big Momma asks about you if you miss a Sunday dinner.
07
May
People aren’t always what you want them to be. Sometimes they disappoint you or let you down, but you have to give them a chance first. You can’t just meet someone and expect them to be everything you’re looking for and then be angry when they’re not every hope and aspiration you projected onto them. It’s foolish to believe that someone will be what you imagine them to be. And sometimes, when you give them a chance, they turn out to be better than you imagined. Different, but better.
15
Apr
What he said: “I know you think you want to be with me, but I have a lot going on right now, so I just don’t want to even go there. I’m cool with just being friends.”
What she interpreted: “oh, so you want me to prove how much I love you and want to be with you? Cool. Challenge accepted! I’m going to do all the things I think you want me to do.”
What he meant: “I’m really just afraid to open up & be vulnerable because I don’t want to get hurt…again.”
And thus they went forth on their journey. Holding hands, walking the same path but going in opposite directions, until the moment their hands split. They were forced to stand face-to-face, totally disconnected and distant. Each asking the other, “why did you let go?” “No, I didn’t let go. You did.”
What he interprets: “See, I knew she couldn’t handle it. That’s why I didn’t get my feelings involved.”
What she interprets: “Maybe I’m not good enough. Maybe there’s someone else. Maybe if I have sex with him or do some other thing I don’t really want to do, he’ll see I’m ‘ride or die’. Maybe he’s gay…Maybe….???”
To be continued…for generations.Love languages.
07
Apr
Melissa Harris Perry does it again!! In the video linked above, Perry and her girls gather around to discuss why they’re totally NOT surprised that ABC’s Scandal is such a huge success.
While I agree with everything they say here, I’d like to highlight and reiterate one particular point and that is the idea that black women have to be perfect. Always. All ways. That we (black women) as individuals must always be perfectly well-behaved or risk damaging the image and perception of an entire subgroup of people is both unrealistic and unfair.
Olivia Pope can have this completely immoral, ridiculously poisonous relationship and the very same time be smart, great at her job, well-dressed and beautiful. Her missteps- in one or multiple areas of her life- fail to define her entire existence let alone any other or all other black women. The idea that a “good” person is still good even when they make “bad” choices is precisely why we find ourselves rooting for her in situations where, typically, we’d be calling for her head on a platter.
Shonda Rhimes is a beast, Amen.
06
Apr
Can we talk about the guy in the background who was clearly on the losing end of a brawl…and the big, blue ass. Oh, and then there’s Jay-Z & Beyonce. You know, if you’re into hot, rich, celebrity couples whose impact on pop culture far surpasses that of any other pair of people in recent generations. I don’t know how they got in the photo.
20
Feb
To-Do.
18
Jan
Honestly, most women just want a man who can put a smile on her face and make her feel safe and protected. So basically, a Ninja Clown.
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