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18

Apr

…and in music news, I’ll be on time for this. all of it.

27

Mar

an open letter.

You ever been in a relationship where, in the beginning, everything was nearly perfect? There was a strong connection, you enjoyed it and they always had the right words to say in any given situation. It was like they could describe your feelings before you would even express them. Then you hit a rough patch and there’s this distance. You’re not spending as much time together and it’s like you don’t even know them anymore. All the things you liked about them seem hidden while the not-so-good things are constantly being thrown in your face. But every situation has it’s ups and downs, right? So when people start to question, you come to their defense and tell them not to judge your love. Once in a while you get a glimpse of how things used to be and you can’t help but remember all the good times, so you hold on. You keep trying, keep supporting, keep hoping- not for the old relationship because that season has come and gone- but just for that old feeling.

Dear Hip Hop…

18

Mar

James Brown biopic? All sorts of yes, I’ll be on time for that!

06

Mar

this is how I frolic.

this is how I frolic.

17

Feb

Monday Musing.

Came up with this little ditty while I was eating lunch in a parking lot this afternoon.

"Us"

Essentially, we have a child with everyone we’re in relationship with. That child’s name is “Us.” Us, like any other child, is not just a reflection of one but rather both parents and the growth and development of Us depends heavily on their parents’ nurturing. Yes, there are some developmental stages that occur naturally as time passes but a large part of who Us becomes is learned; specifically and intentionally guided by boundaries and standards set early on.

Are you spending time with Us? When others cast their opinions, can Us stand up boldly and not only last but continue to flourish according to what you have defined? Do you spend a lot of time comparing Us to others? Do you recognize when Us needs a little help in some areas and situations and are you able to offer such help? If not, are you humble enough to ask? Has your child gotten so out of control that you find yourself, as the parent(s), asking ‘what is going to happen to Us?’ When Us grows up and changes over the years, are you making the necessary adjustments to accommodate this maturation or are you stifling Us & trying to take Us back to infancy? Does Us feel free to just be while still respecting your [mutually agreed upon as parents] boundaries and standards? When Us is out in public, are you proud of your child? Will Us grow up to be a positive example to other children?

When you enter a relationship with someone, platonic or romantic, it’s important to recognize that you are conceiving a child. Just because that child is 5 years old, you can’t expect Us to do what typical 5-year-olds do if haven’t nurtured as such. The manner with which you handle Us will determine whether they grow and thrive or wither and die.

-jkm

13

Feb

excuse me miss, your halo is showing.

excuse me miss, your halo is showing.

18

Jan

It’s impossible to silence the heart. My eyes speak for me even when I make sure my mouth does not.
Emery Allen

12

Jan

the reason(s)…

not

to define me.
to complete me.
to control me.

but

to clasp my new favorite necklace.
to taste my new recipe.
to put aloe vera on this scratch on my right hand.